overdue post

this is a bit of an overdue post, a bit of a delayed telecast.

well, i was lazing around at home on sunday, to the disdain of my mum. anyway, so i was just parked in front of the tv taking in whatever that was being shown.

one of the movies shown was 'the wedding singer', which was the first movie where we saw adam sandler being paired with drew barrymore. you do remember the incredibly funny '50 first dates' that had the 2 together again. well, this was just as good, and just as heartwarming. call me a sap, but that was what i thought.

i always liked the 'growing old with you' song in it and i had this vision of singing it on my wedding day for my wife. well, thats another story all together.
but back to the show. it was so hilarious and yet filled with so much little details.
adam sandler spoke of his ex-girlfriend in the movie. he related an incident where the 2 of them were at the grand canyon. it was his 1st time there while the ex-gf had been there before but while they were in the bus, the ex still insisted on sitting at the window seat instead of allowing him to. she wanted to see the sights even though she had been there before, that was the point adam sandler was trying to make.
then later on in the movie, drew barrymore was in the plane with his cad of a bf. they were flying to las vegas and he had been there countless of times, so drew asked if she could take the window seat instead, since it was her 1st time. the bf replied that he liked the window seat, but he could allow her to lean over and take a look when they were over the city...

well, we all knew what happened next.
its the little gestures, ain't it?

heros

the only autobiography i have ever read was that of cassius clay or muhammad ali, as many would know him. in the beginning, i did not read any autobiography because i was too lazy to want to go and find out about what this great guy/gal had done in his/her life. then i just did not read because i felt that many a times we would never have been able to emulate them because the conditions that led them to their achievements were something we would never go through. your environment plays as much a part in your development as you own upbringing.

that said, it does not mean that i do not have any heros at all. contrary, i have many heros in my mind.

my mum, who after been relegated to widowhood so early on in her life, has chosen to live on bravely for her 2 boys. though she misses her husband and still weeps sometimes, she will always maintain a brave face in front of others.
i know of someone who gave up a job to chase a dream. though i believe that he will admit that he is already living 1 dream now of being a married man, he is still prepared to chase another dream, 1 in the form of his dream job.
i know of a lady who is laden with academic achievements and yet strive everyday to be better, always pushing herself.
i know of another who despite what many around her had told her about her life, she still went on living her life, her way.

what can you say of the old couple whom i saw holding hands and taking a stroll in the evening, by the park? they, to me, are heros. face it, would you still be holding hands with your spouse in 30 years time and still be so much in love as them? do you even hold hands now?
what about the common man on the street who has worked for 30 years, just to allow his 3 children to get tertiary education?
what about the woman who slogs through a job and still find time to look after 2 kids and maintain the house in tip top shape?

aaaahhhhh... heros are around us all the time. don't you already have 2 at home, in the form of your parents? pardon me, but the next time i want to go about looking for inspirations, i'll speak to my mum, look through my old photos with my dad or i'll just go to the hawker centre and drink a teh, watching the world of heros go by.

questions

who do you direct your questions to? questions of the heart, questions of the mind? questions regarding food and those regarding drinks? who do you approach to answer questions pertaining to work and questions pertaining to family?
who indeed?


today is the 7th day of the 1st month of the lunar calendar and it is suppose to be the birthday of everyone.
so happy birthday, everyone.

Valentine's

i saw this really good valentine's card. i can't recall everything in there so here are some excerpts.

cover goes, i love having you to love.
if someone was to ask me what the best part of my life is, i would say that you are!

what are you doing this valentine's?


valentine's might have become a really commercial day where the prices of meals and flowers seemed to double, but whether it is special or not, is all up to us.
oh, and trust me, even though the ladies out there are saying that meals are too expensive and that flowers are too dear, so no need to buy and stuff. believe me my friends, buy the flowers, at least. do it. be a romantic. of course, remember that the buying of flowers should not stop only at valentine's day. do it every once in a while, to show your love and care for the one you love. its just a few dollars, but that few dollars will make the one you love feel like a million dollars!

to me, thats worth every single cent spent. what do you think?

mobile feasting

the annual chinese new year visiting brings about what i would like to call mobile feasting. basically, we are feasting wherever we go. probably like a swarm of locuts, eating wherever we land. the only difference would be that the owners were more than happy to let us finish up whatever that was laid on the table.
needless to say, after 2 days of eating, my weight would have ballooned a little, but i don't see that stopping me.


last night, was a first. 4 families dine together, for no particular reason. everyone just happened to be at the same place at the same time and it was dinner time.
at our table, sat all the cousins. i looked around and i saw various people at various stages of their lives. 1 was in primary school, her sister in secondary school. still young by our standards, but i did remember the daunting times of pre-teens and the days of being a teenager.

then there was the cousin who is looking for love. younger than i am, and no doubt hoping for that 1 day, she will find a man who will sweep her off her feet and carry her off into the sunset and they lived happily ever after.
her brother just came out of a divorce last year. he really really looked happier now. i think things are going well for him. he is truely enjoying himself, as a person.

another cousin has probably all but given up on love. she is in her mid 30s and she is an independent woman. i believe she had her share of relationships but they did not work out, for whatever reasons. anyway, she had gone and bought a new condo because she is able to afford it and also able to sustain it, due to non-committments. sometimes, if we look at the flip side of life, things might not be that bad at all.

me? i'm looking to embark on a new adventure. what that adventure is, well, i have yet to really find out, but i don't think that it is very far away, from happening.
sometimes, we cannot just sit and wait for life to happen. we have to go out there and look for life.
something like nasa, who instead of just wondering whether there is life on mars, they sent a probe all the way out there to search for life. whether you find any life though, is another matter all together, but at least you tried.

fall into place

on days, things just fall into place.
i sent out an email to a few friends. most got it. one of them tried calling me, i was in a meeting and missed his call. i thought that he was calling regarding the email. i tried calling him back and he did not answer.

that night, i was out in town. i needed to buy some things and as i was walking along, lo and behold, i bumped right into this friend of mine. things just fall into place when you least expect it.

then again, sometimes, things can just fall apart when you least expect it to.


my uncle, no, the other one, called me last night and wanted to borrow money again. yes, i did loan him the money, and it was a small amount.


last night, we were back to our old Uni days again. 4 adults sitting in a kopitiam, joking, teasing, laughing and talking at the top of our voices, with lots of strangers sitting around us. it was a spontaneous meeting, everything falling into place at the last minute. for that short period, we were a bunch of friends, sitting there drinking our teh, with not a worry in the world, except to think of the next insult to trade with one another. it was quite a relief and it was good.